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Thanks to Mitch Kief(1973) and Jim Cochran, Kathy McConaghie, and Toni
And anyone else who wants to get their name up here,
all you have to do is scan an entire yearbook(and I'll even host it
on the site!)
Wilmington, NC Reunion
More Wilmington photos.......
Matt Barrett's &
Weldon uncovers long lost
August 4, 1924- December 11, 1999
I would like to emphasize
what I said at the memorial service, that each of you (his children)
are unlike each other in appearance and personality, but all of you
are like your father. While he did not say it freely to his children,
he revealed to me that he was proud of all of you. You have gone in
a direction that he basically approved of. That is, you have all independently
pursued a direction of your own. He disliked computers, but the instance
of your establishing this web site is another example of how you each
march to your own drummer, and this would be another instance of where
your father would be secretly proud of you.
As most people who will look at this site probably already know, Nicholas
had the impression that he was living on borrowed time for most of his
adult life. Prior to going to college he had tuberculosis and was in
a sanitarium on Long Island for a long period of time. I suspect for
about a year. When in college where I first met him in 1948, he was
told that Marfans would probably kill him before he was thirty. After
that he was frequently told that he did not have long to live. He did
not dwell on it, and with genuine courage went on and accomplished so
much in his teaching and his life, with a sword of Damocles hanging
over his head. When he was told that he had stomach cancer he asked
directly how long he would live and told me that the physicians hedged.
He finally pinned them down by asking if he would still be able to sit
outside his house, have a cocktail, and watch the sun set. They said
they thought he would be able to do that for quite a while. By most
people’s definition it was not quite a while.
When I asked about what he had told his children he effectively said
that he was titrating the information and that they were learning about
it so that they would be best able to deal with it. Nicholas readily
acknowledged to me that he did not want to see people when he was feeling
sick, only when he felt all right. During the last few weeks of his
life he was reluctant to see me but as he realized his life was nearing
an end he consented to it. I visited less than two weeks before he died.
As usual he was straightforward and told me all that was going on medically
and psychologically. When I left after about three hours, he said, “That
wasn’t so bad.” I think he still maintained the attitude of reluctance
to share bad news, but with me he was usually free and so as the news
was really bad it was very unpleasant for him to tell me.
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